Why “Lean into it” is bad advice…
We’ve all heard the advice of life coaches, gurus, and even possibly Oprah, that suggests when we experience a “negative” memory or feeling, we “should lean into it,” as opposed to denying it.
It IS true that stuffing emotions and memories is unhealthy and equally important, is ineffectual. In fact, stuffing our feelings leads to an overall imbalance that can lead to disease and if stuffed for long spans, may even lead to premature death.
The healthier choice is to neither run from nor “lean into” the memory/emotion. The reason is, when we perseverate on any life event, regardless of how painful, how villainous, or how life-altering that event, we are feeding it. Whatever we give attention to expands in importance. If we no longer want to be anchored by past events, it is crucial to stop suckling them….
So how do you stop allowing past memories to control the future?
It’s no secret that without some seriously pinpointed, acute self-awareness, we live as conditioned puppets of our subconscious minds. With self-awareness we can see how we may be fostering worn out behaviors, habits, fears, and patterns. And we can decide to change what’s not working in our best interest.
In an effort to keep us safe, all those old memories and emotions are stored for safe-keeping. They are stored as energetic switches, activated whenever something in that emotional genre triggers the stored energy. It’s actually, very efficient. And if all our subconscious data were as helpful as it is meant to be, we wouldn’t have cause to make conscious changes. Life isn’t perfect, however, and most of us have some limiting stored energies that need to be released.
For example, let’s say you had a traumatic or simply repetitious childhood event that provided you with the lesson that there is never enough money to make ends meet. I’m using this example for two reasons. Reason #1 is because it was the chant of my mother, the lesson I absorbed into my subconscious mind during early childhood and beyond. And reason #2, because it’s also a common theme that arises frequently with my coaching clients. So for brevity sake, I’ll use it. The empowering secret is that we can replace the internalized message of “never enough” with anything that’s been controlling our success potential, and the results will be similar.
That message of “never enough” is a powerful lesson, and it is one that seems to tether a lot of people from realizing their divine bounty. Like a weight that prohibits flying, this old memory circles to the surface often, as a habitual limiting thought, as a reminder to not dare to feel as if you are “enough.” When the message is “never enough,” it translates to “never being enough.” And that sort of negative internalized message is a self-sabotaging lesson that is at its best when released.
Easier said than done, you say?
- What if you discovered that it’s not difficult to transform that worn message?
- What if you learned that you were holding onto past emotions because they serve you?
- What if you could have access to the tools that free you, that actually empower you to your full self-worth?
- Imagine your life when you have mastered the truth about your divine right to live a spectacular life, free of shackling memories and stagnant emotions….
- What does that look like?
- What do YOU look like when you sever the cords and cease leaning into the old mire?
What will your life be, when you no longer follow the habituated urge to “lean into” that old emotion because that old stuff is resolved and released?
How will you feel when you stop returning to the source of the pain?
Let’s face it: When we have carried around an internal anchor for years, or even decades, it’s practically a part of our DNA. There is actually a school of thought that believes that energetically, these generational learnings are linked to DNA. If that’s true, by clearing our own limiting shackles, we are simultaneously breaking the chains for others. That’s a powerful supposition! Consider the limitless ripples of freedom that could feasibly come of that release!
Would you like to know how to excavate the pains of the past, to release the past memories, to free up the stuck energy and finally let go of the ties that bind you to the DNA of “never enough”?
Think of it this way:
If you take a bite of food, and it tastes bad, do you take another bite? Click To Tweet
No. Of course not. So why would you continue to lean into something that has absolutely no value to your divine sense of self?
But I did say there is a “gift” in every event, didn’t I?
So before you metaphorically toss that rotten food into the garbage, it’s important to find that hidden miraculous gift and once identified, express gratitude for all the treasures it brings to you.
And then, let go of all that doesn’t nourish your mind, body, soul -whole.
And don’t go back to the dumpster!
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The Queen’s Dozen guides you thru the process of bringing that Queen to reign….
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