Growing up, I don’t think empowerment was part of the plan. And the older we get, the more of a challenge it becomes to stuff a healthy dose of self-awareness and self-love, a completely self-saturated feeling of security that fills every pore and thought and sentence in self-talk, into an ever-more-rigid set of beliefs and self-talk.
Okay maybe it’s not like trying to stuff a too-large square peg through the eye of a needle, but still, it is a real challenge to look at the way that as women, we have not taken 100% of the ownership for creating our own subjective security. Most typically, women still look for external validation to determine who we are, and to determine if we are “good enough.”
Generally speaking, we didn’t grow up with words like “self-love” or “thrive” or “self-esteem” as the formative expressions of who we are. Most of us grew up with messages of “don’t be selfish,” and “put others first.” This internalized message backfires at a certain age though, at that age when we become legally, if not literally, responsible for our own care and nurturing. Because let’s be honest here: Survival in the world does require that we be selfish enough to care for ourselves, lest we perish. And that means we must put ourselves first or we have nothing to share.
I wonder if you could commit to 5 consecutive days of practiced self-care….
Could you decide how you will care for yourself each day, create a map of sorts that outlines the 5 ways in 5 days for self-nurturing? Does the thought of 5 straight days of mindful self-care make you queasy? What goes off in your mind and in your heart when you contemplate committing to a challenge of supporting yourself for 5 days? (Don’t make yourself wrong, just notice how you feel and think.)
I do challenge you to determine ways in which you can place your care and feeding on the front burner this week. I challenge you to give yourself permission to step to the front of the nurturing line, to take a page from your feminine principles toolkit, and be ultra kind and caring to you, the way you are to others.
So are you willing to play? If so, take a few moments and set the foundation.
- Decide what you will do to support yourself consciously on each of the next 5 days:
- Track the truth of what actually transpires: |
What you feel
What thoughts surface
How easy or challenging the self-care is to keep up
That’s it. Simply notice. Self-awareness is perhaps the best teacher. And if you feel brave, post about your experience on the Winged-Women™ thread.
PS~ Keep an eye out, because in honor of Women’s Herstory month, in a few days I am unveiling the the much anticipated event ENOUGH: Women’s Worth & Wealth Learn ways you may be blocking abundance of love and money and joy in your life.
(By the way, you are more than enough!)