What keeps you up at night?
(Is it different from what kept Michael Jordan up at night?)
There is a general consensus with coaches that we must clearly identify a Problem and then offer an effective solution (the Promise). The theory with this Problem/Promise model is, if we can articulate your pain, in your own words, if we can clearly speak to you and evoke emotion around that one big thing that keeps you up at night, we can then provide the perfect solution to your problem.
As the theory goes, once we’ve addressed the one big problem and offered our solution/promise, the hoards will feverishly gather our services and products and programs like gold nuggets discovered at a river bank.
Maybe a better analogy would be birds flocking to carrion, because I really am considering that maybe that Problem/Promise model is dead….
Here’s what I believe:
You want to feel good.
You want to experience joy, and laughter, and love, and prosperity, and much less stress.
You want to enjoy life.
You want time to spend the way we want to spend it.
You want, as Virginia Woolf said, “A Room of [your] own in which to contemplate, create, meditate; a safe, sacred space away from the world, a place to take off your bra and hang out with our thoughts and emotions, to make sense of the often nonsensical, a place in which to breathe, unjudged….
Maybe wanting these conditions isn’t something that keeps us up at night. But then, I don’t really think Michael Jordan, or Shaquille O’Neil or anyone else who hires a life coach necessarily does so because they want to move away from something painful.
I think, we hire coaches because we want something better. We want to up our game. We want to experience the big wins in our lives. We want to feel as if we are truly excellent at something, in some area, or as a whole way of being. I think we hire a coach because we don’t want to die with our song inside, with our life wasted on watching televised re-runs. I think we hire a coach because we aspire to something more, even when we aren’t clear about what that “something more” looks like….
There are as many reasons for client/coach relationships as there are people on the planet. We each know when it would serve us to get a fresh perspective, to bring in the professionals to help us to up-level a particular area of our lives that just isn’t working at optimal conditions. And we each know when the pain gets too unbearable is not the optimal time for finally calling that coach we’ve been considering. When we are immersed in pain, and can only think of ways to escape, the solution becomes further away, buried beneath the rubble of chaotic emotions. When we are clear about what we want to achieve, or at least that we want to move forward, the solutions are like a red carpet unfolding with each step we take, and our coach helps us with those steps.
Never run from something; always run to….”
Somewhere in my past, right around the time I was considering leaving my birthplace and moving to the “Golden State” aka California, USA, I was told to “never run from something; always run to.” The adage had my brain churning; Dare I say, it kept me up at night?
The thing is, I wasn’t sure if I was running to or from. All I know is that my spirit was crying to leave, and the California coast was calling…. It seemed as if both sides of that coin were true.
Sometimes, as it turns out, it’s hard to know the difference. Either way, whether it’s for moving towards something, or running from, having a coach in your corner is the fastest way to make quantum leaps over anything that keeps you up at night, or just rattles incessantly around in your head, or causes you to want to improve something, or to release something that has long ago run its useful course.
My feeling is that, as long as you can identify what you don’t want, you can then (by contrast), focus on what you do want. (Remember that adage about running to or from? It’s the same concept…) By the way, what you do want, may or may not be something that keeps you up at night. And if it does keep you up at night, it may be with an abundance of excitement rather than with fear-based emotions!
Think of it this way: A pilot files a flight plan to determine the best pathway to her destination and she makes continuous adjustments and corrections in accordance with conditions she encounters along the way. She does not file a plan for looking at where she’s leaving from, or where she’s been. All she needs to know is where to start, and where she’s going. And that’s all any of us need: Clarity and a plan, and a decision to stop looking back.
If you need help filing your flight plan for life, I have an opening in the Winged-Women™ 6-Month Coaching Program that will help you earn your wings. Together, we’ll create the plan based on where you are now, and where you want to be. We’ll set the trajectory for your chosen destination. In six-months, you will be both grounded in clarity, and flying towards your new life.
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