Transform Your Fear into Fuel
It’s human to feel fear. In fact, fear is a critical condition for survival of the species, and on a personal level, each of us benefit from the instinctual use of fear. It keeps us safe. Sometimes though, we are in a state of fear for too long. From a physiological and emotional perspective, this is a potentially deadly place to be. Stress hormones are meant to be quick spurts that aid in the fight or flight response, and not as a lengthy chemical immersion.
The process used to transform your fear into fuel does not require lengthy sessions or painful re-living of memories. Simply, once you take a closer look at your fears, yu can see that:
- You are not your fear and your fear does not own you
- You survived past fearful events and you will continue to survive
- When you transform your fear into fuel the reward makes it all worthwhile
Here’s a quick process to transform your fear into fuel using simple self-awareness and a technique I like to call “hotseat.”
- Place your fear on a chair in front of you.
- Observe your fear.
- Define the characteristics of your fear (color, size, gender, shape, substance, etc.)
- Trade places and BE your fear, and feel yourself as you have previously described fear.
- As your fear, tell you what you can do to you (be specific about your power as fear).
- Without judging, notice how you feel being fear. Tell fear how you feel.
- Now trade places and once again be you. Respond to what your fear said to you.
- Notice how you feel as you respond to your fear:
- How does your body feel?
- What is your posture like?
- How is your breathing?
- How are you feeling emotionally?
Your fear is either real or imagined, and in each case is meant to protect you from something. So ask and answer this question: What do you get for holding onto the fear?
Perhaps, for this layer of protection provided by your fear, you can express gratitude to your fear and reassure your fear that you now have this.
From now on, notice how you may be using fear to hold you back. It may be that you have allowed your fear to keep you feeling safe. Now, maybe you are ready to step away from that false safety, and step instead, into your liberated future….
Commit to acknowledging your fear and expressing gratitude to it for doing the job of keeping you safe. But remind fear, and yourself, that you are now capable of consciously deciding what to fear. You no longer need this old habit of allowing fear to keep you from making forward progress.
Commit to this process and transform your fear into fuel. Use the technique at anytime you feel fear: in relationships, romance, career, finances, and at any point where you may be keeping yourself stuck due to fear.
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