Why Are We Here? (you and me, at this specific time...)

Are you happy?
Satisfied beyond the norm?

Are you fully engaged in your life with a passion, and with wisdom and insight, and an inspired fervor of excitement that entices you out of the cocoon of your bed each day?

Are you guided by your passionate purpose, and are you learning to trust yourself more each day?

Did you finally muster the courage to step out of the shadows and claim your divine birthright to shine brilliantly while others bask in your extraordinary light?

At this very moment, is your life the manifested expression of your deliciously fulfilling personal taste, merged with your most preciously held values, and sweetened with your highest caliber expectations?

Have you created a life by design that makes you feel satisfied at your core?

Do you have plenty of time for following inspired creativity, for connecting with your inner goddess, for relaxing throughout the day, and leisurely committing to self-care?

And do you have plenty of time and energy for nurturing sacred relationships, and for allowing your life to unfold as a reflection of your beautiful feminine principles?

In other words, are you living a fabulously textured life consciously created by you, in the frequency of your infinite spirit, and crafted decidedly to suit your expansive purposeful desires?

Is your richly hued life far more than enough to sustain you at the level of your deepest emotional, intellectual, and physical cravings?

And in this glorious life, are you celebrating the unique wonder of you in all your energetically limitless potential?

Is there more than enough wealth in your world to allow you to support the causes you cherish, to offer you the freedom to travel to wherever you wish, to feed your soul with the experiences of whatever you want, to support those you care about, and to make it such that you never have to worry again about money?

And in this life, are you well-loved and pampered, both by others and from yourself?
Is your wellness a protected daily ritual?
Are you living each day in your optimal state of mind-body-spirit alignment?
Do you feel whole, complete?

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Daring to Dream

Or conversely, and more commonly, do you dream of a life that’s different from the one you are currently living? Is the grass greener on the other side of your thoughts? In your secret mind wanderings, is there a “better” version of you, perhaps more polished, less frenzied, more confident and secure?

In this dream, are you living a “better” lifestyle with more creature comforts and less stress and overwhelm? Do you play and giggle and celebrate with “better” friends and do you have a “better” more functional family dynamic? And in this dream-state vision, do you reap decidedly “better” rewards than those you currently see show up?

Do you dream of having more money?
Do you desire the richness and freedom to fully taste life?
Do you wish you felt better about yourself?
Do you lament about love and romance?
Do you sometimes feel a deep urge to step out of your own shadow?

Do you just know there is something so much greater to be experienced?
Is your authentic voice silently screaming to be heard?

Is there a higher purpose pushing at your consciousness, pleading to come out and play?
Do you instinctively know that you were meant for something more?
Are you sick and tired of giving away all your energy just to survive the day? 

What Are You Thinking? ...and is it really thinking?


Sometimes, we have recurring thoughts that we misconstrue as thinking. Actually, these are nothing more than repetitive monotonous noises that generally bring no reward. The circling of obsolete messages about who you are, and what you “should” or “shouldn’t” do or be, cycle around and around in your head. These are not conscious thoughts. They are mind-litter, aka garbage disguised as thoughts.

Maybe your head-speak is a cycle of repetitive laments like:

If only I could leave this job
If only I could leave this town…move to Paris, or India or….
If only I had a (better) lover 
If only I had more money….
If only I had a better body
If only I had the confidence to _______
If only I felt the courage to ________
If only I had enough ________
If only I didn’t feel so tired
If only I had the vitality of a two-year-old!
If only I were younger?
If only I had the education
If only I had a beautiful dream home
If only I could afford that _______ car
If only I’d had a better family!
If only I could let go of that ghost of that old lover
If only I had a better routine
If only I would finish something to completion
If only I were smarter; prettier; younger; thinner; enough

Maybe when you close your eyes for a little time out, you imagine yourself living on a completely different continent, long nights and dreamy days spent with a passionate and irresistible lover…or perhaps in this daydream you’re sipping sweet tea while leisurely writing your memoirs…a story that will be published, making you millions, and touching the hearts and souls of thousands around the globe. Or maybe your dreams are of opening an orphanage, of feeding and housing and educating the less fortunate, of leaving a positive impact on the planet….

Maybe you can imagine yourself turning your experiences into a calling to connect with others, sharing your stories and the wisdom they bring to the world. You have this inner voice that keeps telling you that you’ve got something to share, that your experiences can make a difference for thousand, perhaps millions of others…if only you decide to take that path. You are passionate about something that others need to hear, or to feel, or to learn. Deep down, you feel that you are the expert, if only you were brave enough to ‘own it’ and give yourself permission to step into that leadership role….

Maybe you just fantasize about making it through another day, intact.

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It could be that you don’t even allow yourself the luxury of imagining a larger more rewarding lifestyle because you’re too in the spin of day-to-day survival…your thoughts and emotions are chaotic and your focusing ability is not a skill you currently have at your command. Maybe stress has stolen your patience, and self-pampering is something from an advertisement in a fashion magazine -one which you have no time to read! You barely have time for the demands of life: The linens aren’t going to change themselves, the laundry needs washing, the floors need a good scrub, the dust has gathered to become a community with a newly elected mayor, the bills need to be paid before the lights go out, the kids need shoes, and by the way, the litter box stinks. Argh! Maybe the fantasy is to run away and never look back!

Oh how I remember the days of chaos... (and a bit of shame)

I’m not a stranger to the notion of stress and chaos, and the brutal truth is, there was a time when I was painfully shy and never felt “good enough.” My abysmal bank account balance, my frayed friendships, the dark circles beneath my eyes, my roller-coaster love-life, and the pounding of my heartbeat were clearly indicative of my lack of focus and out of control lifestyle, not to mention my awkwardness and lack of self-confidence….

Clearly, those effects indicated that I was not in alignment of my mind and my body and my spirit. In fact, I was so far out of alignment, but had been in that state for so long, that I didn’t recognize any other way to be. I never stopped being in the cycle of overwhelm long enough to consider that I could do things differently and have different results….

Transformation In a Moment of Clarity

First and foremost, I just must say that YOU’RE NOT BROKEN! There is nothing wrong with you, and you will never. ever. never. be judged as anything less than perfect in your humanness while you are here with me.

I want you to know that I feel you. I feel your torment of “not enough,” and I know personally the chronic ache of not living the life experience desired. I’ve been there! And I want you to know that it can change, if that’s you decide.

Start by giving yourself permission to step away from overwhelming feelings for even fifteen minutes, and allow yourself to dream about all that you desire. It might help to journal your biggest, most audacious life possible. Give it a lot of detail: What you’re wearing, who you’re with, where you’re at and what you see, smell, and even taste. Describe the scene. How’s the weather? Put all the internal resistance aside, and allow yourself to fully feel into this picture as you envision the life you desire. Stay here as long as you like. You’ll intuitively know when it’s time to come back. And here’s a little women’s empowerment secret*: If you’ll begin and end each day with this emotionally charged vision of your audacious life, you will raise your personal vibration and will begin to shift physically into this desired realm….

When you’ve fully detailed this vision of your inspiring life, answer this: What stops you? What is it that causes you to resist creating such a richly rewarding lifestyle? How might you be in your own way? There’s no judging yourself here. Be honest with yourself, and simply notice what is.

Is THIS You? (You can be honest here)

Sometimes (often…) a woman is well-put-together on the outside,
but inside she is secretly feeling that gnawing inferiority of not quite being “enough.”

She may be a prominent successful business woman,
(and if she is considered ‘successful’ she probably doesn’t feel it)
or even a woman who has braved and blazed her own entrepreneurial trail.
She could be a stay at home mom, a teacher, a doctor, a nurse, or a nun…
Young or older, of any culture…

It doesn’t matter how much education she has,
how many degrees and/or certifications she’s earned,
what her status is as measured by the world’s yardstick of regard,
or even how much money she has in the bank.
Her physical beauty, her kindness and caring, and her intelligence
have little impact on how she feels about who she is….

In fact, her self perception comes from the opinion of someone outside of herself.
Her self-esteem and self-worth are products of external validation.

It’s a conundrum that the most culturally accepted versions of “beautiful” are the most apt to experience the stinging feelings of not being “enough.” Some of the most revered Hollywood starlets, for example, have the lowest self-esteem…some to the point of self-loathing. It’s palpable. You can feel the insecurities, and if you look closely beyond the hair, costume, and makeup, you will see it there behind her eyes.

Something, somewhere has shattered her confidence.
She’s not broken; she’s neither helpless nor hopeless;
she’s just allowed pieces of her authentic feminine power to be misplaced….

She’s given away her power.
Have you?

She’s not living in alignment.
She’s not in her authentic state of wholeness.
(mind-body-spirit connection)
Are you?

From every walk of life, teen moms I’ve coached, mainstream women around the globe, and so-called ‘A’ list celebrity clients, that worn-out weave of waning self-worth has created a threadbare tapestry worn thin by spirit-trampling repetitive thoughts of “not being, doing, having enough“! No matter how hard she tries, that frayed thread of self-doubt is often the only thread holding her together….

Is this your experience too?

For years she struggles with the inner feelings,
sometimes turning to recreational use of numbing substances,
maybe noticing she’s drinking more and enjoying it less….

She may have a best friend to confide in…
or she may confide in a lover,
or sometimes even to strangers in coffee shops and bars.

Usually, she just keeps quiet, shrinking to suit others’ expectations…
suffering in silence while chocking down the truth of what she knows deep down:
That her life could be different…better, if only….

Just give me a break!

“Just give me a break” is the call of overwhelm.
It’s the scream of desperation.
And I’ve heard it thousands of times.
It’s like a mating call of those who feel like they don’t have enough,
that they’re not good enough….

In law of attraction fashion, that mating call is the lower vibration of stress and overwhelm being broadcast into the creative consciousness and attracting the exact energies to feed the call. It can be no other way. That’s why it’s called the “law” and not “the ‘suggestion’ of attraction.”

In other words, if you’re vibrating in the frequency of overwhelm, the generous universe will bring to you an overflowing plate of experiences to keep you in that essence of overwhelm. And if you instead, begin to transmit in the higher frequency of “enough” your sense of being, having, and doing enough will be matched. You alone, can decide.

What if, those “if only” statements above could be transformed into:

  • If only she realized beyond an occasional thought, that she is enough!
  • If only she would let go of past thoughts that continue to circle and plague her mind….
  • If only she knew that her life could be easily and permanently so much richer…
  • If only she embraced the means to transform that itchy uncomfortable life into smooth silk…
  • If only someone understood her unique feelings…
  • If only someone wouldn’t judge her…
  • If only someone would confidentially hold a safe, sacred space for her to explore her ‘self’…
  • If only someone would hold her accountable and take her through the process…
  • If only someone would show her the way to release what eats at her self-worth…
  • If only someone had been there before, and could confidently lead the way… 
  • If only she dared imagine her life as it could be…
  • If only she then dared believe that her life could be experienced on her terms
  • If only someone could help her see herself in that life of all that she desires…
  • If only she believed she is worthy of the journey to the other side of this pain (which is platinum)
  • If only she believed that she deserved to invest in herself…
  • If only she dared take the risk to step into her feminine power…

You may or may not be a celebrity, an entrepreneur, or a business woman, you may live anywhere on this globe, and still, you may resonate with the same nagging inner gnawing of not being “enough.”

If so, don’t make yourself “wrong“.
(There’s nothing wrong with you.)
And here is evidence of your perfect humanness:

You showed up.

You are here with me because you are ready to face your truth.
You’ve tried to change…for years, maybe even decades…
…you’ve been in the spin cycle of doubt.

Maybe you just cannot seem to focus,
can’t quite put your finger on what’s holding you back.

Maybe you’ve bought lots of programs,
tuned into webinars, sat through seminars…

This could be your first time reaching out beyond your thinking,
because you realize, as Einstein reminds us:

“You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.”

Either way, you’re here because you’re ready to “learn to see the world anew.”
And that’s why I’m here too: to help you learn that ‘new’ habit.

You’re here, reading this, because you are testing the waters of my expertise.

You’re on this page because you are ready to commit to an inner practice of self-connection.

You’re here, because you’re bone tired of not feeling well about YOU.

You found your way here, because you are committing to self-care,
to discovering a new way of showing up in the world.

You’re ready for some pampering.
You’re ready for some direction.
You’re ready to stop the pain.
You’re ready to live in joy.
You’ve had enough.
You are enough!
You are perfect.
Perfect.

 
Winged-Women

Sometimes (often…) a woman is well-put-together on the outside,
but inside she is secretly feeling that gnawing inferiority of not quite being “enough.”

She may be a prominent successful business woman,
(and if she is considered ‘successful’ she probably doesn’t feel it)
or even a woman who has braved and blazed her own entrepreneurial trail.
She could be a stay at home mom, a teacher, a doctor, a nurse, or a nun…
Young or older, of any culture…

It doesn’t matter how much education she has,
how many degrees and/or certifications she’s earned,
what her status is as measured by the world’s yardstick of regard,
or even how much money she has in the bank.
Her physical beauty, her kindness and caring, and her intelligence
have little impact on how she feels about who she is….

In fact, her self perception comes from the opinion of someone outside of herself.
Her self-esteem and self-worth are products of external validation.

It’s a conundrum that the most culturally accepted versions of “beautiful” are the most apt to experience the stinging feelings of not being “enough.” Some of the most revered Hollywood starlets, for example, have the lowest self-esteem…some to the point of self-loathing. It’s palpable. You can feel the insecurities, and if you look closely beyond the hair, costume, and makeup, you will see it there behind her eyes.

Something, somewhere has shattered her confidence.
She’s not broken; she’s neither helpless nor hopeless;
she’s just allowed pieces of her authentic feminine power to be misplaced….

She’s given away her power.
Have you?

She’s not living in alignment.
She’s not in her authentic state of wholeness.
(mind-body-spirit connection)
Are you?

From every walk of life, teen moms I’ve coached, mainstream women around the globe, and so-called ‘A’ list celebrity clients, that worn-out weave of waning self-worth has created a threadbare tapestry worn thin by spirit-trampling repetitive thoughts of “not being, doing, having enough“! No matter how hard she tries, that frayed thread of self-doubt is often the only thread holding her together….

Is this your experience too?

For years she struggles with the inner feelings,
sometimes turning to recreational use of numbing substances,
maybe noticing she’s drinking more and enjoying it less….

She may have a best friend to confide in…
or she may confide in a lover,
or sometimes even to strangers in coffee shops and bars.

Usually, she just keeps quiet, shrinking to suit others’ expectations…
suffering in silence while chocking down the truth of what she knows deep down:
That her life could be different…better, if only….

Just give me a break!

“Just give me a break” is the call of overwhelm.
It’s the scream of desperation.
And I’ve heard it thousands of times.
It’s like a mating call of those who feel like they don’t have enough,
that they’re not good enough….

In law of attraction fashion, that mating call is the lower vibration of stress and overwhelm being broadcast into the creative consciousness and attracting the exact energies to feed the call. It can be no other way. That’s why it’s called the “law” and not “the ‘suggestion’ of attraction.”

In other words, if you’re vibrating in the frequency of overwhelm, the generous universe will bring to you an overflowing plate of experiences to keep you in that essence of overwhelm. And if you instead, begin to transmit in the higher frequency of “enough” your sense of being, having, and doing enough will be matched. You alone, can decide.

What if, those “if only” statements above could be transformed into:

  • If only she realized beyond an occasional thought, that she is enough!
  • If only she would let go of past thoughts that continue to circle and plague her mind….
  • If only she knew that her life could be easily and permanently so much richer…
  • If only she embraced the means to transform that itchy uncomfortable life into smooth silk…
  • If only someone understood her unique feelings…
  • If only someone wouldn’t judge her…
  • If only someone would confidentially hold a safe, sacred space for her to explore her ‘self’…
  • If only someone would hold her accountable and take her through the process…
  • If only someone would show her the way to release what eats at her self-worth…
  • If only someone had been there before, and could confidently lead the way… 
  • If only she dared imagine her life as it could be…
  • If only she then dared believe that her life could be experienced on her terms
  • If only someone could help her see herself in that life of all that she desires…
  • If only she believed she is worthy of the journey to the other side of this pain (which is platinum)
  • If only she believed that she deserved to invest in herself…
  • If only she dared take the risk to step into her feminine power…

You may or may not be a celebrity, an entrepreneur, or a business woman, you may live anywhere on this globe, and still, you may resonate with the same nagging inner gnawing of not being “enough.”

If so, don’t make yourself “wrong“.
(There’s nothing wrong with you.)
And here is evidence of your perfect humanness:

You showed up.

You are here with me because you are ready to face your truth.
You’ve tried to change…for years, maybe even decades…
…you’ve been in the spin cycle of doubt.

Maybe you just cannot seem to focus,
can’t quite put your finger on what’s holding you back.

Maybe you’ve bought lots of programs,
tuned into webinars, sat through seminars…

This could be your first time reaching out beyond your thinking,
because you realize, as Einstein reminds us:

“You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.”

Either way, you’re here because you’re ready to “learn to see the world anew.”
And that’s why I’m here too: to help you learn that ‘new’ habit.

You’re here, reading this, because you are testing the waters of my expertise.

You’re on this page because you are ready to commit to an inner practice of self-connection.

You’re here, because you’re bone tired of not feeling well about YOU.

You found your way here, because you are committing to self-care,
to discovering a new way of showing up in the world.

You’re ready for some pampering.
You’re ready for some direction.
You’re ready to stop the pain.
You’re ready to live in joy.
You’ve had enough.
You are enough!
You are perfect.
Perfect.